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In another one of my blogs there was a guy who commented about not replying to a beautiful woman because she looked "high maintenance". I immediately thought, "What a damn fool..." Why would anyone pass on a beautiful woman and judge her without even taking the time to KNOW for sure that she is not right for him? Some dudes are very insecure and will pass on a beautiful woman because they feel she is too pretty to ever want them, but for a man to pass on a beautiful woman because he THINKS she is high maintenance without knowing for sure?! Damn silly! Frankly, I don't know if I should applaud such a guy or chastise him. We are taught to not judge by looks alone, but it seems to happen all the time doesn't it??
The more I think about this topic, the more I begin to wonder, "What is a high-maintenance woman?" Does it mean a woman that requires the best upkeep to maintain her attractive appearance? Hair, makeup, massages, fashion, jewelry, nails, etc. Ok, but does it also mean that a man has to PAY for that maintenance? Maybe not. Can a woman be a self-sufficient high maintenance woman? Of course! So why do men feel it is there responsibility to pay the woman for looking good? It can easily mean a woman who likes to take good care of herself and pay for it herself. There is nothing wrong with that especially if it does not interfere with you both being happy and in love. And if you are in love, then treating your woman occasionally to get her nails done, buy some makeup, or having her hair styled is something you will not mind giving her, right?
We have all heard the saying, "Never judge a book by it's cover!" So why do men stupidly pass on a woman without taking the time to give her a fair chance? COMMUNICATE with her and you may be pleasantly surprised. You could risk losing out on a GREAT and beautiful woman by avoiding her. SO WHAT if she is too beautiful! Send her a message. She may be a very genuine soul and a wonderful woman. Not all beautiful women can be ugly on the inside.
There is nothing wrong with a woman wanting to look her best! It's a free world! Do "you", the best way you know how! I remember back when I was searching for love here on CLM, I had a woman reject me because I was too handsome. :-o "Say what?!" No joke, she turned me down! My ugly ass, too handsome?! Who ever heard of such a thing?!!! Come on! Shouldn't that be a positive in a man's corner?! She claimed she didn't want to risk being with me attracting other women. My goodness! Some people are strange like that. I have heard of men not wanting a pretty women because they don't want other men coveting them. Sounds a bit insecure to me, but to each their own. I had never been rejected for being too handsome. Flattering as that may sound, it hurt all the same. No one likes rejection and we men have to experience rejection a lot from women. I was so disappointed. Never in my life...and it is a damn shame because she missed out on such a wonderful guy! Haaha! (Hey, I know it comes off conceited - but I got to jump back and kiss myself sometimes, right James Brown?!! Haaaha!)
So all of you hot, sexy and beautiful women wanting to look your best, I applaud you! I say, "Power to the high-maintenance woman!" Before I end this, let's not mix up the "gold-diggers" with a woman who likes to pamper herself. Just as much as there are many "kept/raised" Chinese women by rich men, there are still very pretty Chinese women who are strong-minded, independent, and prefer to make their own money and do for themselves. Try considering that fact or that it is possible that a woman may prefer to look good because it makes her FEEL good.
So don't be a damn fool....wait...what am I saying? Be a damn fool! Please pass on the beautiful and stunning women because you THINK she is high maintenance. It just means more beautiful women for the SMART guys on here, you big dummy!
Many would consider a high maintanence woman or man is too hard to reach and shamefully difficult to find a match. I have been told by so many that I am a so called high maintanence lady which is the only cause to keep me single. Well, I agree I am a high maintanence girl but I am very proud of that. You have a brilliant point here:Can a woman be a self-sufficient high maintenance woman? Of course!
So I will keep being such a person and thanks for cheering us up by bringing this blog in.
First, you just got done telling women in this community to glam up their profile pictures because any man that says he only cares about what's inside is basically a liar, yet now the man is a fool for doing exactly what you told the ladies all men do, judge primarily by appearance.
As far as the independent high maintenance girl, I agree that yes it is possible. However in a long term relationship situation how many wives want to put up with a husband that spends a large amount of the households money on unneeded luxury? I have a feeling that if one of the women in this community came crying to you about a situation like that I would see another "why don't Chinese girls just drop these kind of guys" style blog about it. So why shouldn't it be the same for us? I don't want a wife that spends a large amount of money on things she doesn't need when that money should be saved for our children and family.
That being said, you hit the nail on the head, to each his own. I'm sure there are plenty of people who agree with you. Till next time have fun big brother and keep writing, I know I will be.
Rather 'high maintenance' means requiring a lot of attention and describing a person, high-maintenance usually means that the individual is emotionally needy or prone to over-dramatizing a situation to gain attention and sucks the energy out of you.
In fact well groomed and turned out women are often surprisingly easy to approach and talk to.
Some simply assume which is not the best way to go about it because the chance that she can simply afford her toys and that you are wrong dramatically increases.
In the case of online dating, I believe the assumption is, if she's so well put together and can take care of herself and is so attractive why does she need a dating sight. The old if it seems to good to be true than it probably is. Of course that is not always the case however the options are so plentiful that there is no real reason to not pass over anyone you have a doubt about for any reason and continue your search. It's not as if their are ten girls dating online and if you miss your chance you're done forever, so this particular format incubates among some the attitude that I will not settle for any less than exactly what I want.....