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I got a message, "How come I get no messages from men on here?" Well ask yourself, "Are you ALL the woman you can be?!!" Most will not like what I say here, but it's not like I haven't said it before. I know many will come out and talk about how, "Beauty is more than skin deep; blah, blah, blah! Look at a person's heart and personality in their search for their life-mate/ wife; blah, blah, blah! Well, I'm here to tell you, bullshit! Stop lying to others and yourself. Don't believe that crap for a second. I can believe it partially if a woman says that, because all men are BUTT-UGLY to me! Haahaa! But if men are talking that garbage, you are faking the funk and trying to not come off so shallow. But I'll say it and admit it, I like a pretty woman and damn it, if that makes me shallow, then I'm a shallow-loving-ass-fool! I make an effort to look good and I love my woman looking pretty! There is nothing wrong with that. A woman who puts forth the effort to show her beauty and sex appeal is ATTRACTIVE to me and to most other men.
MEN are SHALLOW. Hell yes, I said it! Ok, maybe not to that extreme, but we all appreciate being attracted. Women too. Because let's be real, there are many "not so attractive" men and women on here, but I don't see many of them sharing a CLM SUCCESS story, are they?! Am I wrong? Where are these lovely, so-called NON SHALLOW men now? Puhleeeeze, talking all that 'yang about they do not care about how a woman's looks...yea, right!!! Why aren't you filling pages of CLM's success story section with the many plain looking women here? So let's stop kidding ourselves!
Why aren't you being noticed? I have told you all before, it's your profile and most importantly, YOUR PHOTOS. The "Main Photos" are your storefront; the door to your profile and you. Put up an ugly ass door and no one is going to walk through that mofo! Haaaahaah! Why? Because many of you women have photos that suck! Harsh? Well, who else is going to speak the truth, if I DON'T?!! Don't deny it. Most photos are quite dull, boring! You aren't going to get a man to peek at your profile when you are scaring them away with your main photo! And it's not because you are ugly. Most of you are just looking bland, boring and blasé...'shit, let's not sugar-coat it, most of you are looking like a tired, uninteresting, plain women. So can you blame the men for NOT writing you? Men focus on those they find pretty and attractive. Of course everyone has their own level of what attracts them but you know what the hell I am talking about here.
Looking like "Plain Jane" with no care to how you look will get you nowhere. You can FORGET receiving many messages, if any. You do not see CLM advertising their website with ugly photos of women, do you? So stop fooling yourselves! They are using real photos of members on here! Well, as far as I know. ;) Attractive-looking people SELL and create attention! That's how CLM got me here. I saw a web ad with a pretty photo of some sexy, fine-ass Chinese woman and CLICK I went! So do your best to look attractive! This is not a knock against the naturally-looking women on here. I have seen many pretty, natural women on here too, but if you are not getting messages from men, THEN TAKE NOTICE! If you look natural, plain and boring, it could be the reason why you are not getting noticed.
WOMEN, all it takes is 5 to 10 minutes to doll up and turn some heads! Especially Asian women. Just a touch of makeup and damn it's like a transformation! If you do not make any effort don't expect men to make an effort to write you. Ok? It is that simple! You may be showing the real you, but if it's been months and you have received too few messages, than the real you is not CUTTING IT! It is not working. Get real with yourself and notice it is time to CHANGE your plain look. Spice up your look! If you know you can look better, than show it!
Is your hair looking mess? That pony tail pulled back tight look may not be working on the men. Maybe you have too much forehead and all we men can think about is the MOON! Haaaha! Well let your hair down, girrrrl! Try to look pretty. grab a curling iron and have some fun! Women can style their hair in so many ways, Hair does not have to be boring! Try many styles. Have no ideas. Look at magazines! Switch it up! Shooot, I wish I had hair to STYLE!!! Take advantage of it!
Boring clothes?! C'mon, a collared shirt with boring pattern? Yes it may be simplistic, but...Zzzzzzzz. That's right, you are putting the men to sleep. STYLE! Put on something nice. You women have so many options to choose from! We men have to fight to find something slick and stylish to wear, but you women have so much! COLOR is wide open. Styles, designs. pants, suits, dresses, skirts, shorts, shirts, jeans. SO MUCH! So much variety! You all should be going to TOWN on fashion!!!! Wear something that makes you stand out, but chic and stylish! You do not need to wear the pricier name brands, either. There's tons of knock-offs/copies and no brand styles that look no different and we men will not know if you are wearing REAL or FAKE styles! To be honest, we really don't care! If it looks good, who cares! We sure as hell don't.
Serious expressions (in photos)... Ok serious in a few, sexy, sultry. Ok. Cool, but then try not to look like you are posing for the police or passport photo. Show some personality in your photos! One girl I know, Jessica, shows a great energy in her photos laughing and smiling. She's captivating! Let the men see more than just a plain expression. You don't have to look so damn serious all the time! SMILE and show your teeth (secretly, between you and I, it is so we know you have teeth! Haahaa!)
Don't like lipstick? Cool, go put on some lip gloss or something. Accentuate those kissable lips of yours. I love lips! Just a little shine to those plump lips and I'm yearning for a kiss. I'm paying attention!
Don't wear makeup? Maybe a little will help you more than you know. You do not have to cake it on. Use it sparingly to enhance your best or lacking features. Start with a simple eye liner and maybe touch of mascara to lengthen your eye lashes. Make your eyes stand out. That is one of the most attractive things on a Asian woman; her eyes! I know some of you may say, most Chinese women do not like to wear makeup. Well the young girls and hip/cool mature women are using makeup! And they are charming the pants off of men! Even princesses and the Empress wore makeup!
No makeup skills? GRAB up some magazines and learn! Go to the stores and the sales ladies will show you how to use the makeup. Ask a friend! Get on the internet do a search! There are tons of videos with how to apply makeup. Grab a bottle or two of whatever and practice at home. Practice makes perfect.
Get your nails done. Men like to see women with pretty nails. Not so long that you can't type on a keyboard. Do not get crazy with the length so much. They also do not have to be fake nails. I think it's healthier to try to grow them naturally, but have them manicured. Protect them with a gloss coat, French Manicure, or colors. Whatever is your fancy, it's another fashion statement! It's all sexy, until you girls start going crazy and putting on multi-colors. Or letting your nails look a mess with chipped off paint. One girl, I know, had florescent orange toenails. C'mon now! Let's keep it in the control! Unless you are going to a black-light party there's no need for your nails to be directing traffic!
Copy and bite styles - Biting is slang meaning imitating. Copy what the girls who are pretty are doing. Look at women all around you. On your way to work, in a mall, on the street. You can easily notice who is pretty and stylish. They stand out. Then ask yourself what is she doing that makes her pretty and stylish. And STEAL her look and style for your own! What is she wearing? Is it her makeup? Her fashion? Use it and apply it.
What shoes is she wearing? I'm a sucker for high heels. Many Asian women are short in height so they wear high-heels to feel taller. :) I'm not complaining at all with that. For me, it makes legs sexy! Heels on a woman put her up a notch, regardless. Now remember, do not where "auntie heels". You know what they look like! Also, do not overdo the heels to jeopardize your health! Too high of a heel and you could be doing falling and busting your ass. That wouldn't be sexy, but damn well funny. You may just get a man from being funny! Just be safe!
Why do I say these things? It's the feminine side that that attracts a man instinctively. He will LOOK! HE will NOTICE! We can not fight it! We must LOOK! We may not admit it, but we notice these feminine things! And WE LIKE IT!
Hey, if you like looking like a nice, natural, country-side Chinese woman, more power to you! Do you and fight the powers that be. You must feel comfortable in all that you do and are. I'm sure there are men who appreciates the plain faced Chinese woman. If you look like a boring student who cares more about her books than her looks, have no fear. There are men for you too! SOMEWHERE. Good luck finding them....Yet, if you are on here and sport the natural look and are not getting much action, then you may want to ask yourself if you are ready to try something different. If you still refuse, well then...maybe JohnAbbott will create a ChinaPlainWomanLoveMatch.com. See how many men go there!
ON THE REAL!
Women....Look at the other women on CLM!!! This is your competition! if you are seeing more women that can not compare to you, but you say you are not getting messages, well guess what, THEY ARE NOT GETTING MESSAGES EITHER, but the pretty women are overwhelmed with messages and kisses from men on here. So much so, these pretty women GET sick of all the attention and feel they need to hide their profile to take a break! They have no problem getting messages.
We men are EASY to attract!!! Women can easily get noticed from men when a woman makes an effort to look pretty. Men, before you comment about wanting your woman natural, just send me your email addresses instead. I have plenty of plain and simple natural Chinese women I can introduce you to! Why do I know so many? Because they are contacting me asking how to get you to notice them!
So the question for all of you women concerned about not receiving messages and/or not seeing enough activity on this website is, "WILL YOU make the effort to attract a man by doing what you need to do?" It is your choice.
Now please keep in mind. I am not saying you have to be SLUTTY or OVERLY SEXUAL. Keep it classy (maybe a bit sexy), but try to simply dress yourselves up a bit; doll up a bit and take the photos and post the ones that will COMMAND a MAN's ATTENTION! It does not matter how old you are. Women throughout history always primped themselves to be beautiful. Who says that you cant do it as well? Try it and turn some heads! Be noticed!!!
I can see you now replacing Damon Wayans or David Alan Grier in their famous skit “Men on Films” from the famous FOX 1990’s hit show “In Living Color”.
One thing you forgot to mention is all these photos with index finger to the cheek or mouth. It is quite common to see photos of Chinese girls doing this. However, I recently saw a main profile photo where the girl appeared to be picking her nose!
“Two snaps up”.
All you ladies need to worry about is making sure your pictures are clear. forget everything else written regarding looks here.
If a man can't love you for who you naturally are without makeup on, don't bother with him.
If you aren't getting messages from the men you want, it is most likely because the guys are too busy replying to messages they get from other women. To fix this problem, message him and make the first move instead of waiting for him to message. If you want to stand out from the competition you will need to write a message, not those "kisses".
It is important to be in a good mood when you write messages. Believe me, even with broken English us guys know exactly how you feel while you were writing your message and if you come across as being cold he will think you are cold and not be interested.
That last image shown here is a girl who messaged me the day I registered. I didn't contact her back because her profile picture let me to feel she is pretentious.
By the way, this comment is coming from a guy who gets messages from 2-3 women everyday and has never made the first move ever.
Please excuse me for hogging your comment section for something unrelated but I've been trying to email Lotusmaster for a couple of weeks now without success, and I hope he'll check in here.
Message to Lotusmaster: Hi, I've been trying to message you via email for a couple of weeks now. Please write to me at service@ChinaLoveMatch.net, Attn: John Abbot. I'd love to chat with you but apparently our messages are not connecting. Thanks, John Abbot
Thanks for your blog. It means most men here, or western men are more interested in Asian women wearing makeup, or artificial looks, CLM is a beauty contest or show.
well, it's also not surprising for scammers' business...
As for this guy who is ANONYMOUS... what are you hiding for? BE a MAN and stop writing behind your anonymity! You are completly bullshitting the women here! Because I'm sure with all the EMAILS you receive surely there has been many solid good women so you should already be locked down by now. It's not hard to meet a good woman so what other elements are there? Connection and attraction? And I'm sure you are going through so many women because attraction is also up your alley even though you do not want to admit it. If the physical is not so important you will have no problem and I expect you to MARRY fairly QUICKLY! A good message won't mean a damn thing to most of the men on here who do prefer to have a woman look attractive to them. It's completely unrealistic to not want attraction! So Make yourself be known so all these GOOD women on here and TAKE A CHANCE, you coward.
Maybe some beautiful and intelligent women don't get messages because there are so many beautiful women to chose from.
Maybe women need to be a little more adventurous. Take some affirmative action. Step outside their comfort zone.
Search for guys that they find potentially interesting and send them a kiss. Catch their attention. Who knows?
Any man avoiding a woman because she is too beautiful I feel is making a foolish mistake. More on that in my next blog.
You may be right Tanshui about too many beautiful women on here. This is why I tell women to make an effort - especially those not getting any EMAILS replies. The woman that asked me this very question did take it upon herself to email men too, but she did not get any replies. Not ONE! It is obvious from her photos they were not interested. WHY? Too average and plain jane looking to me. I saw her photos and they didn't offer anything to the woman she may be. No character, no sex appeal, no attraction.. Majority of the men here are passing on replying to her. This is why I stated that women must look at their competition and know who they are going against.
AS for men, JohnAbbot, telling the men on here to spruce up; I'll let a woman blogger do that. Some men just don't have a clue what to do to look good. I guess many of us are just raised to be sloppy bums. It is women who are taught from a young age to look and be pretty. Men...well some of us have to learn on our own to spruce up our looks. Learn how to care and take pride on looking good. Some consider a man caring too much on how he looks to be a bit...un-manly. Such is life.
Hmm... maybe if all of us men started taking pride in looking good (like the women on here) it could make the women members just as indecisive as the men are! Haaaha!
"Aiyaaaaah, WHO to choose?! Distraction, distraction! So many good looking men on here how can I choose?" Then we would all be a mess. The success stories on CLM would decline from indecisiveness! :)
Hmm, imagine a world filled mainly with pretty people. Everyone is good looking, beautiful and stunning. The only few people that stand out and become the MOST DESIRED and WANTED are the uniquely ugly! There's a kooky Twilight Zone episode right there! Ok, let me get the hell off of here! I'm just getting a bit too kooky and weird in my thoughts.