| Time : 2012-01-09 13:00:23 |
Of course I am referring to her smartphone.
Do Chinese women understand that it is rude to keep checking their smartphone for emails and texting during the dating process?
I want to know up front so I do not waste my time traveling so far just to see a woman interact with her precious phone.
Comments?
| From: China 广东(guang dong) 广州(guang zhou ) | Time : 2012-01-11 12:15:27 #1 |
it depends what kinds of person u are datting, some people don't do that because they know if they keeping do this, that means their date is bored, but some people have no idea. Anyway, i think this is not the right thing to do.
| From: Norway Oslo Oslo | Time : 2012-01-13 22:21:13 #2 |
I think everyone understands that it is true. if she does this she is simply not interested in you. this is implied rejection that exists in every part of the world.
| From: Canada Ontario Toronto | Time : 2012-01-14 10:57:23 #3 |
Such a party poohper you are.
I would think it would depend on how smart the phone is and exactly how she is interacting with her phone. hahaha
| From: United States Arizona Tucson | Time : 2012-01-15 01:05:21 #4 |
1. My guess is she probably will bring a companion
2. My sense is that it is not considered that rude in China to text and engaged in related smart phone matters during dating. Students do it during class. Movies and yoga lessons are routinely interrupted by texts and calls. it's just a different set of rules. Don't take it personally. You can, however, request a stop to such behavior. ANd if you are ignored in your request, then I think that tells you something. But the de facto position seems to be in favor of constant cell phone use
| From: South Africa Western Cape Strand | Time : 2012-01-19 16:54:23 #5 |
I personally find it extremely irritating and very rude If I am having dinner with someone and she starts yakking on the mobile for 15 minutes and is constantly chatting to others on her cell.
When I am busy with someone having a date or whatever and somebody phones me. If it is not a matter of life and death, Typhoon or earthquake,donner or Blitzen, I tell the caller that I am busy and will call them back later and do so. I always find it very rude to ignore the other person you are physically with to ignore that person and to engage in conversation with others on the phone. Personal opinion here. on the converse side I do notice that some Chinese men and women, seem to be busy sometimes on two mobiles at once. Amusing perhaps!
| From: Canada Ontario Toronto | Time : 2012-01-21 10:33:07 #6 |
If I am with a long time friend or business associate and they need to take an important family or business call that goes on for 10 minutes or so I can understand.
However, in China if I am on the first or second date with someone and they do this I don't bother calling them again. Once I asked a date if she were going to be talking for much longer. She responded that she didn't know. Hmmm. I put 100rmb on the table, got up from the table, said have a great evening and left. She called, sent text messages and emails a few times but I never responded.
I have noticed over the years that some Chinese women have a habit, when you are chatting with them on QQ or Skype, of answering their phone and expecting you to simply wait for them. They don't ask. They just assume. For a polite person it is easy enough to simply say "I need to take this important call. Can we talk later?"
Sure we can talk later and I look forward to the conversation. I always have time for thoughtful, polite people.
But, for the others who don't ask.
I used to wait.
I used to wait for them until I came to understand that this was just a part of their self-centered character and they were not going to change.
I don't wait anymore.
Life is too short and there are lots of Chinese women who are thoughtful and polite who would love to talk and go for a coffee or dinner. Those are the women I want to wait for. And they are definitely the women I want my clients to meet.
| From: China 江苏(jiang su) 苏州(su zhou ) | Time : 2012-01-30 20:29:54 #7 |
Agree with your point of view
| From: United States Wisconsin Germantown | Time : 2012-02-01 02:46:20 #8 |
This is manner, just like eatting at a table. Understand that some people have no maner, it's not unusual someone does that because she doesn't want to ignore her other friends. However, it is generally accepted that the person is not giving you full attention. The question isn't about her, it's about whether or not you can accept that. If you find it unacceptable, then don't waste your time, especially when you're talking about life long living together. If she irratates you on first date, god know what happens years down the road. I can only say follow how you feel, if it doesn't feel right, don't do it.
| From: China 山西(shan xi) 太原(tai yuan ) | Time : 2012-02-07 01:14:55 #9 |
This is not considered bad manners by many Chinese. It is almost as if the cellphone is a real person and it is considered rude to ignore the person when he or she rings. I have tried banning my Chinese students from using cellphones in my classrooms in Taiyuan. But it causes bad feeling when I do so. So I try to live and let live. But I do put a limit on a call of two minutes. Also, they are allowed receive one short call only, and they must never make a call themselves. Try that in the dating scene, and see if it works.
| From: Canada Ontario Toronto | Time : 2012-02-11 23:27:36 #10 |
Shanxi, of course on the dating scene you could always call your date, who is sitting across from you, and have a conversation. Apparently socially and verbally challenged young people are now doing this except they are texting their date that they are sitting across from.
Maybe they use smileys to kiss good night, hold hands or have sex.
